Body Counts and New Beginnings


How to Navigate Conversations about the Past


Okay, fam, let’s get real. In the era of sliding into DMs and swiping left or right, one question keeps popping up – “What’s your body count?” While some wear their number as a badge of honor, others tread lightly, fearing judgment or misinterpretation. So, how do you broach the topic of past sexual relationships with your current love? Ride with me.

Body counts. It’s a term that’s been thrown around a lot lately, more in jest and banter than in serious conversation. But its implications are far-reaching. It’s not just about a number; it’s about past experiences, choices, lessons, and growth. And while we’re at it, let’s debunk this right away – your worth isn’t tied to a number, whether high nor low.

Now, let’s flip the page to the Bible for a second. Ephesians 4:25 (NLT) reminds us, “So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth.” In the context of relationships, this speaks volumes about trust and openness. But, balance is key. Truth doesn’t always mean oversharing, but rather sharing what’s meaningful and impactful for the present.

So, should you spill the beans on your body count? The modern dating scene is riddled with curiosity, but there’s more to consider. It’s one thing to know someone’s past, but another to understand it.

Dr. Henry Cloud, a renowned relationship expert, once said, “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing.”

Each person’s past is filled with decisions made from a particular state of mind at that time. Recognize that growth and transformation are ongoing processes.

Deciding to share, or not, isn’t just about being open; it’s about discerning the relevance and impact. Does sharing add value, trust, or understanding to your relationship? Or does it simply satisfy curiosity? If it’s the latter, it’s worth reconsidering.

But here’s the crux: Every relationship is built on foundations of trust, respect, and mutual growth. Whether or not you choose to discuss the details of past relationships, remember that the present is a canvas waiting to be painted. Create a masterpiece built on love, trust, and mutual respect.

The next time you find yourself at the crossroads of sharing or staying silent, remember that love is more about where you’re heading together than where you’ve been individually. Focus on the journey, the shared dreams, and let the past be a stepping stone, not an anchor. Stay true, stay genuine, and always prioritize the heart over numbers.

Keep it pure, keep it a buck, and stay true to your values. We’re in this together!


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