Recently, I was stung by the optics of a particular hospital visit. I was going to check on two family members that were having kidney challenges at the same time. I went to the dialysis wing.
Once I arrived, I saw a 77-year-old grandmother who was in good spirits but physically drained by the rigors of dialysis. What stirred me was that in the dialysis station next to her was her 54-year-old daughter. We exchanged pleasantries, and she was in good spirits as well. But what brought some sense of sadness was that two stations down the 28 -year old granddaughter was receiving dialysis as well.
“Can you believe it?” one nurse asked me as I was leaving. “Three generations from the same family, suffering from the same disease and getting dialysis at the same time.” In frustration she declared, “The devil is busy. He has this entire family under a generational curse.”
When I was leaving the floor, I saw the sister of the 28-year-old granddaughter in the waiting room. She introduced me to the son of the 28-year-old. He was a slightly chubby young man that was eating a honey bun, a bag of skittles in his jacket pocket and a large soda pop on the arm of the seat.
Giving the Enemy Too Much Power
As I left, I thought about what the nurse said. She said that the family was under a generational curse. I understand the sentiment, and I comprehend what she was trying to communicate. However, suggesting that the family was under the curse of a disease absolved them of accountability and suggests that they were destined to be saddled with these infirmities.
The idea suggests that Satan, almost 70 years earlier, unleashed a weapon against the grandmother, with ricocheting effects, that landed this curse upon her daughter and granddaughter as well. He mangled them with a diabetic curse that ripped through their family.
I am fully convinced that the devil targets families, especially ones that show great potential to harm the kingdom of darkness. However, I believe less in generational curses, and I believe a little bit more in generational cycles. The idea of a generational curse gives the devil too much power. It suggests that he can wield an authority over families that divine aid cannot suture.
Reading from the Script
I do believe when it comes to health, many families, specifically African American families are not subject to generational curses but generational cycles. Cycles don’t just reflect the aims of the enemy; many times cycles reflect the habits and traditions that have been passed down from one generation to the next.
Most of us receive, through our upbringing, a script of some sort from our parents. We receive an emotional script from our parents on how to deal with conflict or offense, and it shows up in how generations relate to one another. Some are given a professional script, so that some adopt a tremendous work ethic, or a sagging work ethic, based upon what parents have modeled before them each day.
Cyclical Behaviors
The same is true for health. For some, the disease of high blood pressure reflects habits that were passed down from the way we deal with food to the way that we deal with stress. For some, lifestyle diseases like Type 2 diabetes are adopted through the script of sugar-filled Kool-Aid to the excessive use of alcohol and dessert consumption. For some, challenges with weight or obesity did not start in your 40s or early 50s; it has been a lifelong journey simply because of the script that was handed to you.
The replication of a cycle, not a curse, determines most of these outcomes. And even when we are genetically predisposed to certain illnesses, our genetics shape our outcomes, but our choices determine them. As Dr. Neil Nedley once said, “Through genetics the gun is loaded, but through decisions and choices we pull the trigger.”
Now to be clear, because we are all mortal, infirmity touches us. You can live an active and healthy life and scary things still happen. However, a life of activity, healthy choices, and trust in God lowers the likelihood significantly.
Today God’s goal is not to lift a curse, but His desire is to free you from a cycle. There are three ways I believe that you and I can break the cycles that have held our families hostage.
Knowledge
The first way we break the cycle is through knowledge. It behooves us all to understand how God created our bodies, and to consult the manufacturer of this fine body temple to know how to manage it. Knowledge is critical to this process.
Ignorance is very painful. There are things that we need to make it a point to know. You should know what your blood pressure is. You should know your blood sugar levels. You should know how many calories, sodium and grams of fat are in the food that you eat. Knowledge empowers you; truth liberates you, and the devil’s shadow loses its hold when you shed your ignorance about how to live a prosperous life.
Evaluation
“Now therefore thus saith the Lord of hosts; ‘Consider your ways’” (Haggai 1:5, NKJV). As we evaluate our practices, and amend them, it puts us in a position to experience abundant life.
When I first moved to Huntsville I fell in love with, and frequented a restaurant called Red Robin. I didn’t realize, until I began considering my ways, how one meal would create an imbalance and harm my stated health objectives. We are told that the normal caloric range is about 2,000 calories per day just to maintain one’s weight.
However, when I would go to Red Robin, I would order a burger that was about 1,100 calories. Each order of fries was about 500 calories. But because the fries were bottomless, on average, I would get about three servings. That is another 1,500 calories. And then I would wash it down with an Oreo milkshake which was about 1,000 calories by itself. The normal range for one day is 2,000 calories, but I was eating 3,500 calories in one meal, two or three times a week.
It didn’t matter how much basketball I played, how much I worked out, or how many times I walked around the block. My eating habits were canceling out my efforts. It wasn’t until I began the process of tracking and monitoring my food that I was able to make any progress and develop some meaningful life patterns. I had to consider my ways.
Get Help
Lastly, partner with those who are invested in your well-being. It could be a brother or sister that enjoys exercising. You may loathe them at times but welcome the accountability they may bring. Connect with the health ministry of your church; don’t let it intimidate you. The only thing worse than not having help is having access to help and not availing yourself of it.
And most importantly, partner with your physician. You need to at least find out where the grenades lie, and whether there is potential for danger, so you can be addressing it in a proactive way and not a reactive way.
I believe that you are a cycle breaker. You can break the cycle of addiction. You can break the cycle of obesity. You can break the cycle of volatile speech, and you can break the cycle of lifestyle issues that have plagued your generations. God has not called you to break a spiritual curse, He’s empowering you to break a family cycle

This article is part of our 2025 March/April Issue
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