What’s good fam? Today, let’s switch gears and talk about something that’s not getting enough screen time – Black love and sexual purity. Yeah, I said it. And no, it’s not old school, it’s about making conscious choices that resonate with our values and principles. I promise you, I’m gonna keep it a buck, so stay with me here.
Let’s get down to the nitty-gritty. We’re keeping it real, bringing in those everyday scenarios, and talking about how to actually navigate the bumpy road of temptation.
Let’s start with a relatable situation. See if this resonates with you. You’re chilling at your partner’s crib, a cozy movie night with just the two of you. Things start to heat up, and it feels like the moment, but you’ve chosen the path of sexual purity. You did not wait until you were in the middle of a hot scene. You vowed purity ahead of time. In that heated moment, how do you uphold your choice?
Well, it’s all about communication and respect. Here’s what relationship expert, Gary Chapman, once said, “Real love is a choice that leads to action.” Pause, take a step back, and express your feelings. You’re in this together, and true love respects each other’s values.
Another common scenario is the pressure from friends and the ‘gram. It’s like everyone is doing it, and they make you feel like you’re missing out. But remember, your love story is not about likes and views, but about love, respect, and values.
In such situations, stay grounded. Keep your eyes on your own paper. Just as you wouldn’t compare your selfie game to others, don’t compare your love journey either. Draw strength from Bible verses like 1 Corinthians 10:13, “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.”
Lastly, we have the self-doubt scenario. There might be times when you question your decision, wondering if it’s worth it. During these moments, remember why you chose this path. Reflect on the deep emotional connection you’re building, that transcends physical needs.
Remember, practicing self-control is challenging, but it’s a choice that shapes your character and the depth of your relationship. Whenever you doubt, turn to your support system, have an open conversation with your partner, and seek advice from trusted mentors.
Black love and sexual purity are about celebrating our strength, resilience, and the power to make informed choices. This generation does not need to be afraid to redefine norms and values. I want to help you rewrite the narrative, navigate the road less traveled, and show the world your version of love – pure, deep, and true.
In this journey, remember the powerful words from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind…It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Your principled choices are valid, respected, and celebrated in my book. Keep it pure, keep it a buck, and stay true to your values. We’re in this together, fam!
